{"id":10542,"date":"2020-07-21T15:34:45","date_gmt":"2020-07-21T22:34:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/?p=10542"},"modified":"2020-07-21T15:34:49","modified_gmt":"2020-07-21T22:34:49","slug":"who-are-your-role-models","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/who-are-your-role-models\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Are Your Role Models?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.2.2&#8243;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.2.2&#8243;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.2.2&#8243;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.4.8&#8243;]<\/p>\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_4 crg-list et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\">\n<div class=\"reader-article-content\" dir=\"ltr\">\n<h2 class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Who Are Your Role Models?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Model:\u00a0<span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">An example of imitation or emulation<br \/><\/span>Example:\u00a0<span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">One who serves as a pattern to be imitated or not to be imitated?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li class=\"\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Who are your role models?<\/b><\/li>\n<li class=\"\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">What example are you leaving for others?<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Let&#8217;s examine this together.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">For the past 32 years, I have had the privilege of helping others discover and live their purpose. With that opportunity comes the responsibility of being an example, an inspiration, and a model for others.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">I admit that many times, I would not have wanted others to model my behavior. I&#8217;m sure many of you can relate to that comment.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Here are two realities we must acknowledge.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">1<\/b><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">. Input equals output.<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Whomever or whatever we are modeling is influencing our choices and behavior. That includes all input elements such as video games, movies, famous people and now all the negative 24\/7 new channels. Any suggestion that those sources don&#8217;t drive behavior is preposterous.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">2. Every day, you are modeling your example.<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Whether or not you intend to do it, you are modeling behaviors. The fact is that what you are doing is much louder than anything that you might be saying with your words.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Years ago, I attended a private function with several individuals connected to the professional and personal development industry. All of us have worked with or for some of the biggest names in the business. During my 32 years as a member of the National Speakers Association, I have met many of the leaders in the industry.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">We attendees agreed that for the most part, we did not want to model our lives after some of individuals who were famous in this group. Why? Their off-stage conduct was not compatible with the messages they present to their paying audiences. In fact, most of us said that once we got to know those people on a personal level, we chose to disengage our working relationship with them\u2014we didn&#8217;t want to be associated with them.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">We all make mistakes but we should acknowledge our shortcomings. That&#8217;s part of living an authentic life.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Unfortunately, some people relinquish their independence to become groupies following a person of influence or someone famous. Like lemmings over a cliff, they place the &#8220;luminaries&#8221; on a pedestal and blindly attempt to mimic their actions.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Don&#8217;t sacrifice the joy of living your own life by putting others above you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Dysfunctional behavior applies equally to seemingly noble groups like radical environmentalists and other extremists who have committed to a good cause but have lost their way.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Who are your role models?<\/b><\/p>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li class=\"\">Have you chosen carefully?<\/li>\n<li class=\"\">Do you believe your current role models are worthy of your attention?<\/li>\n<li class=\"\">Are there other models who can guide you to the next level of your development?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">If you are a parent, who is influencing your kids?<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">The sin of omission\u2014of your responsibilities\u2014is still the sin of omission. Saying the kids are only watching a music video, TV or constantly on social media is not okay.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">What would others say about your exampl<\/b><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">e?<\/b><\/p>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li class=\"\">Does your personal conduct reflect behavior you want others to repeat and model?<\/li>\n<li class=\"\">Is your conduct congruent with what you teach\u2014and declare to be your core values?<\/li>\n<li class=\"\">Are you proud of your conduct?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">After writing over 4 million words of content and 500 articles, it would be wise to take my own advice. My greatest development opportunity is being attentive when I am not personally interested in the topic or person. I did not say this was easy but worth it. I can model being attentive for others? I am much better than I once was and that&#8217;s all we can ask of each other\u2014that we are progressing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">You can learn from others and model them, but the bottom line is<i>\u00a0<b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">it&#8217;s your life<\/b><\/i><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">.<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">That&#8217;s why it is so important to know yourself.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">To help you on your journey to self-discovery, I recommend the following.<\/p>\n<ol class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li class=\"\">To identify your natural preferences and strengths, complete the\u00a0<i><u><a class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\" href=\"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/personal-style-indicator\/\">Personal Style Indicator (PSI)<\/a>.<\/u><\/i><\/li>\n<li class=\"\">To clarify your core values, complete the<a href=\"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/values-preference-indicator\/\">\u00a0<i><u>Values Preference Indicator<\/u><\/i><\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">I wrote\u00a0<b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">The Quest For Purpose<\/b>\u00a0to give individuals a self-guided road map for realizing their life purpose and for living a positive life\u2014not a negative one.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Using those resources will help you play to your strengths!<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Action Steps<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Who is Your Role Model?<\/p>\n<ol class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Who are your role models? List those individuals now.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Do you feel your current models represent who and what you want to become in life?<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Have you ever put a role model on a pedestal, thinking he or she was better than you are\u2014and infallible? If your answer is Yes, what did that cost you in terms of independent thought and enjoyable living? If No, have you witnessed people who have put others&#8217; needs ahead of their own? What has that cost them?<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">You can place\u00a0<b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">context<\/b>\u00a0on a role model. That means you can learn only what you want from them\u2014and acknowledge there are some characteristics you don&#8217;t want to duplicate.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">As an example of a contextual role model, I appreciate what many professional athletes have achieved in their sport but have no interest in modeling their lack of moral compass, off court behavior or character traits.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Who is your next potential role model? Before you choose a person or group, confirm what type of person or characteristics you are seeking.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Are you satisfied with the example you are presenting to the people around you? Why? Why not?<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">What could you do improve your example? List some items now. If you think there is nothing you can do to improve yourself, add humility to your list and start working on that.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">At an American Society for Training Development conference, New York Times Bestselling Author \u2013 Dr. Kenneth Blanchard spoke about leadership and the importance of modeling for every leader. He left us with this statement: &#8220;There is no place for EGOs in leadership.&#8221; What did Ken say EGO meant? Edging God Out.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">People living on purpose have their life&#8217;s directions built on their own personal strengths and desires, not those of others. Use\u00a0<b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">The Quest For Purpose<\/b>\u00a0book to help you start living your life on purpose\u2014as an example everyone can appreciate.<\/li>\n<li class=\"\">As part of the clarification process and to help you connect to your passions, we recommend four specific assessments.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ol class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"\">To identify your natural preferences and strengths, complete the<a href=\"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/personal-style-indicator\/\">\u00a0<u>Personal Style Indicator (PSI)<\/u>.<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"\">To clarify your core values, complete the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/values-preference-indicator\/\"><u>Values Preference Indicator<\/u><\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Make sure you have reason to be proud of your mentors\u2014and ensure you can be proud of the example you are showing to others!<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Until next time, keep Living On Purpose!<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-10313 \" src=\"https:\/\/crgleader.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/kksignature.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"89\" height=\"25\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Ken Keis<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_cta title=&#8221;Coming soon new Wellness eCourse!&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.4.8&#8243; body_font_size=&#8221;20px&#8221; use_background_color_gradient=&#8221;on&#8221; background_color_gradient_start=&#8221;#0f4470&#8243; background_color_gradient_end=&#8221;#f5f6f9&#8243; link_option_url=&#8221;https:\/\/crgleader.com\/product\/dying-to-live-sihp-ecourse\/&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction &amp; Wellness Strategies<\/h3>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\" style=\"text-align: center;\">A full online learning experience and ecourse will be launched soon based on the\u00a0<i>Stress Indicator &amp; Health Planner<\/i>. 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