Just Say No to Toxic People<\/h1>\n
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- Character Disorder<\/strong>: In the book “The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck, the author correctly identifies this condition as one of the most challenging psychological conditions to treat. Individuals with character disorders often blame others and external circumstances for their failures and problems, never taking personal responsibility. This refusal to acknowledge their contribution to their state of affairs makes it unlikely for them to ever change.<\/li>\n
- Whiners and Complainers<\/strong>: Everything is a dramatic event for these individuals. They constantly find something to be unhappy about, draining the energy of those around them. It seems as if they relish in their misery and even seek attention through their complaining behavior.<\/li>\n
- Critics<\/strong>: These malicious spirits boost themselves up by tearing others down. They enjoy gossiping, criticizing, judging, and denigrating anyone who spends time with them. Loyalty for them lies only in their own pain, which they feed by involving as many people as possible in their mudslinging and criticism.<\/li>\n
- Always Have to Be Right or Constant Correctors<\/strong>: Some individuals, as described by Marshall Goldsmith in his book “Triggers,” have an incessant need to be right, even about trivial matters. Being around such people becomes draining and exhausting.<\/li>\n
- Cellar Dwellers or Pessimists<\/strong>: Pessimists and those trapped in negativity often rely on others to validate their endless discord. These exhausting individuals paint negative mental pictures of past and future doom, solely for the sake of eliciting reactions. It’s important to ignore such bottom feeders and refuse to entertain their obnoxious speculations.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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- The Pathological Liar<\/li>\n
- The Putdown Artist<\/li>\n
- The Hatemonger<\/li>\n
- The Instigator<\/li>\n
- The Gossip or Blabbermouth<\/li>\n
- The Backstabber<\/li>\n
- The Bully<\/li>\n
- The Drama Queen or King<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- When you must interact with toxic people, keep the conversation strictly business.<\/li>\n
- Be polite and cordial, but avoid being overly friendly.<\/li>\n
- Never express an opinion, reveal a weakness, or discuss others with toxic people<\/li>\n
- Refrain from allowing toxic people to share their personal business with you.<\/li>\n
- When toxic people try to spread gossip, change the subject. If they persist, firmly express your disinterest, and if necessary, walk away.<\/li>\n
- Show no interest in their negativity and refuse to engage with their toxic behavior.<\/li>\n
- Avoid introducing others (if possible) to toxic people.<\/li>\n
- When appropriate, share with toxic individuals the nature and impact of their behavior. It may be that no one has been brave enough to point out their destructive actions to them.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
To aid you on your journey of self-discovery and creating a toxic-free zone, the following CRG resources are recommended: “The Quest For Purpose<\/a>” book and ecourse,\u00a0<\/span>Values Preference Indicator\u00a0<\/span><\/a>and\u00a0<\/span>What do you really Value ecourse<\/a>,\u00a0<\/span>Self-Worth Inventory<\/a>,\u00a0<\/span>Stress Indicator and Health Planner\u00a0<\/span><\/a>and\u00a0<\/span>ecourse<\/a>, and\u00a0<\/span>Personal Style Indicator<\/a>\u00a0<\/span>and\u00a0<\/span>ecourse<\/a>.<\/p>\n
Action Steps:<\/b><\/h2>\n
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- At this very moment, think of all your current relationships.<\/li>\n
- Are any of those people ongoing toxic personalities in your life?<\/li>\n
- To identify toxic individuals, look out for behaviors such as blaming others, constant complaining, criticizing, always needing to be right, pessimism, gossiping, backstabbing, bullying, and creating drama.<\/li>\n
- Reflect on how being around these toxic people makes you feel. Do you feel drained, stressed, or unhappy?<\/li>\n
- Consider the impact of a toxic environment on your fulfillment, purpose, and passion. How has it affected your well-being and personal growth?<\/li>\n
- Make a decision to limit or avoid interaction with your current toxic contacts. Set boundaries and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.<\/li>\n
- When you are around toxic individuals, practice discipline. Refrain from participating in their spreading of negativity. Ignore them, don’t respond, and don’t engage.<\/li>\n
- Reflect on your own behavior. Are you exhibiting toxic traits? Seek feedback from others to gain awareness. If needed, invest in self-help resources, seek the assistance of a trusted friend, or consider professional help to work on personal growth and behavior change.<\/li>\n
- Life will always present challenges, but you don’t need to make it more difficult by allowing toxic individuals into your circle. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who contribute to your growth and well-being.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Until next time, keep\u00a0Living On Purpose!<\/em><\/p>\n
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- Whiners and Complainers<\/strong>: Everything is a dramatic event for these individuals. They constantly find something to be unhappy about, draining the energy of those around them. It seems as if they relish in their misery and even seek attention through their complaining behavior.<\/li>\n