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Are You Self-Centered or Narcissistic?<\/h1>\n

Self-Centered:<\/strong> Independent of outside force or influence; concerned solely with one\u2019s own desires, needs, or interests<\/em><\/p>\n

Narcissism: <\/strong> A doctrine that individual self-interest is the actual motive of all conscious action; that individual self-interest is the valid end of all actions; love for one\u2019s own body and appeal<\/em><\/p>\n

Before you get defensive <\/strong>and claim that you\u2019re neither self-centered nor<\/em> narcissistic, I have a couple of stories and then a few questions for you.<\/p>\n

Recently, I attended an event with about 12 participants. We were together for several hours, with plenty of time to connect and communicate. For me, one conversation was particularly interesting. I spoke with a gentleman for about two hours and noted that he did not ask me a single question about me or my background. While I was not personally offended, I was shocked to discover that he works as a local university professor who teaches communication skills! How could he be so oblivious?<\/p>\n

Quite frankly, people\u2019s natural tendency is to be self-centered and talk about themselves\u2014some more than others\u2014and this is also influenced by their Personal Style.<\/p>\n

Focusing on others takes discipline and intentionality by developing emotional intelligence.<\/p>\n

Think about your conversations over the past week. Did you dominate the discussion and talk about yourself, or did you ask questions of the person whom you were engaging?<\/p>\n

Narcissism is a close friend of self-centeredness, though some professionals link it to overzealous self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Regardless, according to several university-based psychologists, a significant percentage of our current generation\u2014although wanted and loved by their parents\u2014are absorbed by their own importance. They expect others to immediately fulfill their every wish and demand. The advent of social media has provided a platform for ranting about self-importance; for that generation, that value is becoming an accepted societal norm.<\/p>\n

A recent survey established that 1 in 10 university students have a clinical condition called Narcissistic Personality Disorder, while only 3% of the over-65 age group has it. Unfortunately, people with the most extreme cases of narcissism usually won\u2019t go for treatment. If they do agree to it, they are typically very difficult to treat. They have such inflated thoughts about themselves that they don\u2019t believe a trained, experienced professional would have anything to offer.<\/p>\n

To a certain extent, narcissism can help a person become happier and more successful. In more extreme cases, narcissism causes serious problems in relationships and careers.<\/p>\n

What about you? Do you have a healthy view of yourself, or do you have self-centered or narcissistic tendencies?<\/p>\n

There is a major difference between confidence and arrogance. Significant research shows narcissistic parents and childhood dynamics contribute to the condition; however, that should be used only as an explanation<\/em>, not an excuse<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Take the survey below to determine how healthy or unhealthy your thinking and responses are to life\u2019s events:<\/p>\n

Are You Self-Centered or Narcissistic?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a healthy or an unhealthy view of life?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The following chart\/survey will help you understand self-centeredness and\/or narcissistic characteristics. Be honest with your responses.<\/p>\n

In each item, simply select one of the two choices, HEALTHY <\/strong>or UNHEALTHY<\/strong>, that describes you best. If you are on the midline, where both HEALTHY <\/strong>and UNHEALTHY <\/strong>apply, split the points\u2014give half a point to each choice. You can also use this list to evaluate others with whom you interact, to frame their tendencies.<\/p>\n

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*Please note: <\/em><\/strong>This short survey is for information purposes only. It is not intended to be diagnostic in nature. That said, your answers to the above reveal trends and truths in your life.<\/em><\/p>\n

Your Responses:<\/strong><\/p>\n